{"id":121,"date":"2015-04-03T09:53:30","date_gmt":"2015-04-03T09:53:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.astromara.com\/blog\/?p=121"},"modified":"2015-04-03T09:53:30","modified_gmt":"2015-04-03T09:53:30","slug":"let-go-of-past-hurt-accept-that-you-are-loved","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.astromara.com\/blog\/let-go-of-past-hurt-accept-that-you-are-loved\/","title":{"rendered":"Let go of past hurt &#8211; Accept that you are loved"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a title=\"Find my soulmate\" href=\"http:\/\/astromara.com\/products\/Intimate-Lover-for-one-person.php\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-126\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODdhAQABAPAAAP\/\/\/wAAACwAAAAAAQABAEACAkQBADs=\" data-lazy-src=\"http:\/\/www.astromara.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/04\/Lovers-Horoscope-Report-300x194.jpg\" alt=\"Lovers horoscope tarot reports\" width=\"300\" height=\"194\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.astromara.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/04\/Lovers-Horoscope-Report-300x194.jpg 300w, http:\/\/www.astromara.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/04\/Lovers-Horoscope-Report.jpg 579w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-126\" src=\"http:\/\/www.astromara.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/04\/Lovers-Horoscope-Report-300x194.jpg\" alt=\"Lovers horoscope tarot reports\" width=\"300\" height=\"194\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.astromara.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/04\/Lovers-Horoscope-Report-300x194.jpg 300w, http:\/\/www.astromara.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/04\/Lovers-Horoscope-Report.jpg 579w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/noscript><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong><a title=\"Lovers psychic reading\" href=\"http:\/\/astromara.com\/Psychics-Clairvoyants-Readings-Telephone-Text-Service.php\">Will I ever find true love ?<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Manifesting true Love<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Failed relationships are brutal to overcome and not properly processing the experience, myriad emotions and owning up to your part in the failure can prevent you from moving forward and finding the love that <strong><em>is<\/em><\/strong> there waiting for you.<\/p>\n<p>When a relationship faulters, there are five distinct stages of grief we all experience or cycle through:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Denial<\/li>\n<li>Anger and resentment<\/li>\n<li>Bargaining<\/li>\n<li>Depression<\/li>\n<li>Acceptance<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The loss of a relationship distinct grief stages.\u00a0 Often we get stuck or repeatedly cycle through the stages which keeps us from moving forward.\u00a0 The greatest gift you can give yourself is to identify &amp; flow through these stages in order to release the past hurt, lost dreams and failed expectations.<\/p>\n<p>Accepting your role in the failed relationship is also integral to healing and opening yourself to receive future love.\u00a0 The old saying; \u201cit takes two to tango\u201d is apropos when it comes to the failure of a relationship.\u00a0 While it is easy to play the blame game, the bottom line is you have no control over anyone but yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Honestly look at your actions and reactions in the lost relationship because you are the only one you can control.\u00a0 Did you expect your spouse to be a mind reader?\u00a0 Are you the type who had to \u201cwin\u201d arguments?\u00a0 Recognizing where you failed is stepping into vulnerability.\u00a0 This is when you ruthlessly expose your belly to the predatory truth of your actions.\u00a0 It is painful, it feels humiliating but it is also freeing.<\/p>\n<p>Once you have identified the role you played in the failed relationship, forgive. Forgive your spouse for you. Anger and resentment are like holding on to a red hot coal, the only person who gets hurt is you.\u00a0 You are not excusing the acts or justifying a wrong, you are simply freeing yourself from the pain and letting it flow so you can move on and accept love again. \u00a0 Forgiving the offender is an eviction notice from your head.\u00a0 They no longer can live there rent free when you forgive.<\/p>\n<p>In forgiving your spouse you must forgive yourself too.\u00a0 There is no point in carrying guilt or shame all tucked up neat and nice wrapped in a bow waiting to beat you over the head. \u00a0 If you open to vulnerability, accept your role in the failure, forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes, make the changes needed to not repeat them and move forward you won\u2019t need that bow wrapped guilt package.\u00a0 It serves no purpose in your growth.<\/p>\n<p>The ego loves expectations.\u00a0 Learn to quiet the ego and ditch expectations.\u00a0 An expectation is a recipe for failure.\u00a0 Learn to accept people for who they are, good and bad. Expectations are what you \u201cwant\u201d the other person to do. You will develop a natural sense of what you will and won\u2019t allow in future relationships.\u00a0 When you allow people to be who they are and accept them just as they are, you will find that limits drop away and that love you deserve is easier to find when the noise of the ego and past are vanquished.\u00a0 Are you #lookingforlove ? Do you ask yourself #doesheloveme ?<\/p>\n<p><a title=\"What does the Lovers Tarot card mean\" href=\"http:\/\/www.paulomara.com\/tarot\/Major-Arcana\/Lovers.php\">The Lovers Tarot Card &#8211; Detailed meaning &#8211; <strong>Click Here<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Does he love me ?\" href=\"http:\/\/www.astromara.com\/Psychics-Clairvoyants-Readings-Telephone-Text-Service.php\">Speak to a recommended Psychic about love &amp; relationships <strong>Here<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Finding true love\" href=\"http:\/\/astromara.com\/products\/Intimate-Lover-for-one-person.php\">the Intimate lovers Astrology report may have your answers, check it out here <strong>Intimate Lovers<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Will I ever find true love ?\u00a0 Manifesting true Love Failed relationships are brutal to overcome and not properly processing the experience, myriad emotions and owning up to your part in the failure can prevent you from moving forward and finding the love that is there waiting for you. 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