Manifesting true Love
Failed relationships are brutal to overcome and not properly processing the experience, myriad emotions and owning up to your part in the failure can prevent you from moving forward and finding the love that is there waiting for you.
When a relationship faulters, there are five distinct stages of grief we all experience or cycle through:
- Denial
- Anger and resentment
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
The loss of a relationship distinct grief stages. Often we get stuck or repeatedly cycle through the stages which keeps us from moving forward. The greatest gift you can give yourself is to identify & flow through these stages in order to release the past hurt, lost dreams and failed expectations.
Accepting your role in the failed relationship is also integral to healing and opening yourself to receive future love. The old saying; “it takes two to tango” is apropos when it comes to the failure of a relationship. While it is easy to play the blame game, the bottom line is you have no control over anyone but yourself.
Honestly look at your actions and reactions in the lost relationship because you are the only one you can control. Did you expect your spouse to be a mind reader? Are you the type who had to “win” arguments? Recognizing where you failed is stepping into vulnerability. This is when you ruthlessly expose your belly to the predatory truth of your actions. It is painful, it feels humiliating but it is also freeing.
Once you have identified the role you played in the failed relationship, forgive. Forgive your spouse for you. Anger and resentment are like holding on to a red hot coal, the only person who gets hurt is you. You are not excusing the acts or justifying a wrong, you are simply freeing yourself from the pain and letting it flow so you can move on and accept love again. Forgiving the offender is an eviction notice from your head. They no longer can live there rent free when you forgive.
In forgiving your spouse you must forgive yourself too. There is no point in carrying guilt or shame all tucked up neat and nice wrapped in a bow waiting to beat you over the head. If you open to vulnerability, accept your role in the failure, forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes, make the changes needed to not repeat them and move forward you won’t need that bow wrapped guilt package. It serves no purpose in your growth.
The ego loves expectations. Learn to quiet the ego and ditch expectations. An expectation is a recipe for failure. Learn to accept people for who they are, good and bad. Expectations are what you “want” the other person to do. You will develop a natural sense of what you will and won’t allow in future relationships. When you allow people to be who they are and accept them just as they are, you will find that limits drop away and that love you deserve is easier to find when the noise of the ego and past are vanquished. Are you #lookingforlove ? Do you ask yourself #doesheloveme ?
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